Shorter posts, links, or thoughts. No schedule, not heavily considered.
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Winding down
The past couple of weeks have been somewhat hectic. It’s part and parcel of my job and these times aren’t the norm but they do happen and no matter how far in advance I know of them they always hit me pretty hard. My stress levels and working hours rise, sleep decreases and I end…
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I’m dreaming of…
Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com. A Poly Christmas (ho ho ho!) The festive season is upon us once more! Yuletide approaches, mince pies are being warmed, trees decorated and…
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Writing about writing on writing
I’m always one for the latest thing, particularly when it comes to social media. So when I heard the @Ev (the man behind Blogger and Twitter) had started up something new, I was quick to check it out. His latest venture is called Medium. It’s an online writing space. At least that’s part of what…
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Focus, focus, focus
File this under ‘so obvious it hurts’. I recently signed up for Yelp, prompted by both the rise of people in my Twitter timeline using it and the number of local businesses on Twitter starting to smartly engage with customers. I’ve been following some of these businesses and it’s great that they ‘get’ how the interactions…
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My Overcommitment Cycle
I’ve written about this type of thing before but I recently read the phrase “overcommitment cycle” the other day and it reminded me of a realisation I had about such cycles. Turns out, and I know this will not be a shock to anyone, I am very much a product of my parents upbringing and…
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Why I blog
I’ve always enjoyed words, reading and writing. At school English was my favourite subject, with Physics a close second (if there had been a computing O Grade I would probably have taken that instead). My parents are both teachers and much of my inquisitive nature was fuelled by books; I still have, and treasure, a…
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Remember yourself
Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com Let me start with a simple premise: Relationships are a compromise, and those compromises are made to find balance to make sure everyone…
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Forever Falling
The sky slowly darkens as the sun dips behind the clouds, the windows slide from light to grey. Whisps of air stream past, chasing droplets across the glass, helter skelter as the plane starts to descend. Inside the cabin the light changes, melting from the dazzling brilliance of moments ago to the dull artificial glow…
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Moments of Beauty
“Live quietly in the moment and see the beauty of all before you. The future will take care of itself……” Paramahansa Yogananda, Autobiography of a Yogi I can’t recall where I first heard this advice, I know I’ve not read the book, but it’s stuck with me. Part of me wonders if it’s always been…
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How do you do yours?
It has taken me a while to get the Spotify bug but as I can’t seem to escape it I’ve done my usual and leapt in at the deep end leaving my iTunes library mid-rebuild to explore Spotify and see how it fits with my needs. It’s good! I like a lot of things about…
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And then I turned 40
It’s a milestone! It’s all downhill from here. It’s just a number. It’s a turning point. I’m not sure quite what it is but I do know that, subtly, the approach of today has been in the back of my mind for the last year. However, in the same way I don’t hold any sway…
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Random Thoughts
I love my Apple products. But leaving my laptop charger in a hotel, with an official replacement costing £65, does make me consider cheaper alternatives. Thankfully, the hotel staff found it and are posting it to me. I’m almost 40. I need to make time to get back out jogging again. A few months ago,…
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FOMO
Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com What is happening with them? Are they having fun? Why am I home alone? What’s the point of having more than one partner…
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Letting Go
I have a short, quick temper. It can flare quickly but will disappear almost as soon as it arrives. I vent, I moan, I rant, and that seems to get it out of my system, for the main part. Thankfully, or so it seems to me at least, those instances seem to be fewer and…
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Healthy Achievements
The health kick has stalled again but I think I’ve figured out why. I need a goal. I need an achievement. In the past I’ve managed to tackle a 10KM run, and a 47 mile cycle ride from Glasgow to Edinburgh and, more recently, I took part in a local 5KM event. All of them…
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Over Communicating
Written in response to the monthly theme on Poly Means Many: Communication Many articles around open/poly relationships discuss communication and rightly so as it’s the key foundation for all good relationships, regardless of type. However, it’s not something I’ve always been the best at; add my own shortcomings to a poly relationship, and those flaws get…
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Still learning
I first made aware of the idea of non-monogamy by some friends, it was on the periphery of my life and I didn’t pay it much heed. I was aware of the general principle but for the most part I fell into the usual traps when thinking about ‘open relationships’ (basically, all the sex, right?).…
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Getting Organised
I read some advice the other day that suggested that, instead of reading up on how best to be productive, you’d be better served actually doing the things you need to do rather than trying to figure out the best way to ‘be productive’. I guess the premise being that many people spend a lot…
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Balance
I’ve use this word a lot and over the years finding emotional balance has become increasingly important to me as I start to understand how I work and function best. In the past I’ve been very guilty of taking on too much, either explicitly or without realising, and leaving myself open to the big dark…
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Where I stand
Note: I’ve not made any explicit references but this post may contain triggers. Somewhere in my head there is a grouping of thoughts. I’m trying to write down some of these thoughts because I’m fed up with them being whipped up into a frenzy in my head, leaving me annoyed and angry by the actions…