Polywobbles

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. It was an odd time for the best of reasons.   I was happy with my life, embracing changes to my lifestyle and enjoying…

Different Journeys

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The older I get the more aware I become of the truth that drives the many and varied philosophical cliches that pepper my day. They are so frequent and so subtle, and are usually delivered as a passing thought, that they barely register. But at present one seems to be stuck in my head and…

Relationships with metamours

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. #153342558 / gettyimages.com This month, the Poly Means Many crew are pondering metamours; I can still remember my thoughts when I first read…

Misconceptions

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Poly Bingo – credit to BiteyTheSwitch. One of the reasons I got involved with the Poly Means Many project was because it had helped…

Letting go

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The title of my website is largely true. I’m aware of my flaws and foibles and, for the most part, I accept them and I’m happy within myself. However that doesn’t mean I’m not on the lookout for ways to be a happier me. I’ve discussed in the past how I’ve taken steps to remove…

Relationship Significance

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. I have ridden the relationship escalator. I got engaged at 20, married at 21 and 13 years later got divorced. I got engaged because…

Our Poly Setup

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Kirsty and I had talked for a while about what a poly relationship may look like for us; we knew we didn’t have a…

What being Poly has taught me

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Looking back over the past few years, I forget just how much I’ve learned about myself in that time. Leaving a long-term relationship determined…

2013: Moments that mattered

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Some years have many moments, highs and lows, that stick in your mind. Looking back they can define your entire memory of a year. For me, 2013 was no different. I’m lucky that last year was mostly highs. Glastonbury being the main one centred around an event. A second visit to the legendary festival, Kirsty…

Polyamory: Decisions and balance

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. There is a word I use a lot when describing how I try and approach life in general and when it comes to…

What Poly Looks Like

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I’ve mentioned this before, but despite how many people think a set of polyamorous relationships work, the reality is that it takes a lot of work, communication and calendaring to get to the good bits of having multiple, loving partners to spend time with. We’ve just about got the next two weeks sorted it and…

I’m dreaming of…

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com. A Poly Christmas (ho ho ho!) The festive season is upon us once more! Yuletide approaches, mince pies are being warmed, trees decorated and…

Remember yourself

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com Let me start with a simple premise: Relationships are a compromise, and those compromises are made to find balance to make sure everyone…

FOMO

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them.  Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com What is happening with them? Are they having fun? Why am I home alone? What’s the point of having more than one partner…

Over Communicating

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Written in response to the monthly theme on Poly Means Many: Communication Many articles around open/poly relationships discuss communication and rightly so as it’s the key foundation for all good relationships, regardless of type. However, it’s not something I’ve always been the best at; add my own shortcomings to a poly relationship, and those flaws get…