Time changes everything

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Our little poly family spent New Year together, the first time we’d done something like that, and whilst it took a little adjustment (and a few spoons) it was a nice relaxing time for us all. We did a whole lot of nothing, but just being in the same space, all at the same time,…

I am a feminist

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at http://www.polymeansmany.com. I am a feminist. Perhaps not a very good one, but I’m still learning. Hang on, how can you be a bad feminist?…

On Cheating

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. There are many ways in which polyamorous and monogamous relationships are not only similar, but identical and, at a basic level, cheating is…

Taking stock

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You know that thing where your brain grabs hold of something, an event, a thought, a desire or loathing, and then twists it and wrings it out and leaves it floating around in your brain as either the best thing ever or the worst thing in the world? Yeah? OK, so it’s usually the latter…

Hierarchies

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Every month the Poly Means Many bloggers choose a topic to write about. Some months I find it easy, some months I find…

Is Saturation Good or Bad?

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. I’m going to try and write this month’s Poly Means Many piece without using the word that I think best sums up my…

The Truth About Polyamory

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. I tend to research new things. I like to have a sense of what I’m getting, whether it’s buying a new car, starting a…

Looking after yourself

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Despite having written many posts for Poly Means Many, and many more that are introspective, the topic for this month has lead me to…

A big pot of time

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. I like making stew, I like the simplicity of it, I like how the combination of ingredients becomes so much greater than the sum…

Honesty and trust

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One thing that has continued to take me by surprise, despite the overwhelming evidence that suggests it shouldn’t, is how many benefits there are to being open and honest in your relationships, building a trust that makes so many other aspects of the relationship so much easier. What that really means is being honest with…

On Dating and Poly

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. One advantage of being non-monogamous is that you can go on dates even if you already have a partner or two, how great…

Resolutions in the poly world

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Over the last few years I’ve shied away from making any New Year resolutions. However the fact remains that as the calendar year ticks…

Christmas is coming

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. The end of the year is approaching and so once again those of us in non-monogamous relationships start to look at our shared calendars…

Coming Out

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Time to fess up. For the longest time I didn’t really give the concept of ‘coming out’ all that much thought as I didn’t…

The Little Things

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Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Towels. No-one told me that being poly would mean I have to buy more towels. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I didn’t…