The Detox continues

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I know you’ve all been waiting on this update, it’s been a few weeks after all… is he finished, did he get halfway through and quit, is he procrastinating about it by writing a blog post instead of just getting on with it… read on, dear reader, and all will be revealed!

So yeah, I’m making slow progress but it’s progress and I’m trying to stick with the view that ANY progress is good. I’ve not really set a timeline for this either, by the end of the year would be ideal but ultimately as long as there is LESS STUFF that’s fine by me.

So, to recap, I am:

  • Deleting Photos and Videos, mostly duplicates or v.similar shots
  • Deleting old blog posts that have lost meaning (if they had any in the first place)
  • Deleting old journal entries that don’t serve a purpose (mostly me ranting about things I can’t even recall now)
  • Changing email addresses from Gmail to my own domain (why?)
  • Updating passwords to be more secure (as flagged by Apple’s Passwords app).

Progress so far

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Which I’m quite happy with, given I have a full time job which keeps me very busy, and a 4 year old to chase around (which keeps me even busier), plus trying to get to the gym, and then all the usual life stuff… yeah I’ll take it!

After all you know what they say about eating an elephant! (Ehhh don’t do that, we love elephants, please don’t eat them!).

Mostly it’s just fun to see the progress and knowing the numbers are there helps me keep accountable to myself. Let’s see how I get on.

Week 7 Notes

Reading time: 3 mins

A week of highs and lows, busy at work and getting busier, and still trying to get into a routine.

Life

  • HIGH – Jack has been attending Squirrels, he’s always a bit reticent to join in new things (which is fine, he’s 4) but he’s starting to enjoy it!
  • LOW – My niece is on our Apple family plan, she’s 10 so I have her account locked down. App purchases require approval by me, and whilst I don’t mind a few quid here or there, we got caught out when I forgot to cancel a trial of Duolingo. Ā£68.99 whoooshed out of my account and as soon as I spotted it that morning I whooooshed Apple a request for a refund. It was granted. The money may take up to 30 days to be returned. Annoying. Not whoosh.
  • LOW – Driving to Blairgowrie this week involved a road traffic incident, avoiding an oncoming BMW in the middle of the road, I mounted the kerb with a loud bang, and by the time I’d wrestled the car back onto the road, the offending vehicle had disappeared. Car likely to be written off (an 18 year old Mini). FUN TIMES, NOT. (More on this later).
  • VERY HIGH – Scotland win the Calcutta Cup, and what a victory.

Reading

  • Artemis by Andy Weir – big silly moon thriller, great characters and only made me roll my eyes once.
  • Babi Yar by Anatoly Kuznetsov – a stunning, horrifying, and true retelling of the destruction of Kiev before and during WW2, from the point of view of a 12 yr old boy who survived. Hard to read at times. Tellingly current though, scarily so.

Considered

Watched

  • Down Cemetery Road – finished this and, it was ok. A little bit too ā€œsuspension of disbeliefā€ but great performances all round.
  • Pluribus – One episode in and I’m HOOKED.

Listened

Health

  • Two visits to the gym this week, forgot about the DOMs!
  • Current Weight 103.2kg – Lost 0.4kg, slowly slowly and all that. Although I do need to eat better.
  • Avg. Sleep: 6hrs 37mins (down 2 mins on last week)

Tech

  • Bye bye gmail – because I’m not doing enough it seems… more about the rest of my digital detox soon.
  • Blank Spaces app – Almost had me, but with no way to deal with the iOS dock, it loses it’s appeal (you remove apps from it in one focus home screen and it disappears from all of them, not ideal).
  • Facebook deactivated as I barely use it and can happily live without it.
  • Bluesky embraced because I can’t go full cold turkey.
  • And my blog plans now become focused on creating my own custom WordPress theme. I’ve built them in the past but it’s been a few years, learning curve ahead!

Bye bye Gmail

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So here’s the thing, I’ve had my Gmail account since at least December 2007 (so just the 19 years then) and I’ll happily admit it’s been great; open enough that I can use other email clients, smart enough that I can use some of its features whilst ignoring others, it’s handled spam well, and for a while it was my only email address.

I primarily moved to Gmail when Virgin bought Telewest (in March 2006) and whilst I could’ve kept my old blueyonder.co.uk email address (Blueyonder was the broadband offering from Telewest) I wanted to separate it from the broadband provider to future proof it. Not a bad idea at the time and since I’ve changed broadband provider many many times, it’s proved wise (by luck, I am not wise).

That said, I bought this domain (gordonmclean.co.uk) in 2004 but mostly for vanity reasons as I was, at the time, blogging from snowgoon.co.uk. Hindsight now suggests that I had an email option prior to Gmail but hey, Google was new and exciting, and I’ve always been a sucker for a bandwagon!

So I’ve been using Gmail for 19 years, and only really started using my own domain (the current one) for email about 6 or 7 years ago and even though the goal back then was to move away from Google/Alphabet, I never really followed through and so ended up with a mishmash of accounts, some with Gmail, some with my own domain.

Sidenote: I have, and am still, tracking mclean.co.uk and while I missed out on that back in the day, I’m still hoping to snag it!

All of this means that I’ve used my Gmail account for over (checks) 500 accounts and online services over the years. Which is bonkers in its own right at first glance but given how long it’s been… yeah it’s still mad.

But that’s not why I’m moving away from Gmail.

Mostly, the move fits with my thoughts on a variety of similar desires that I’ve mentioned in passing before; simplifying my tech stack, worrying about my digital footprint, and not wanting to be completely tied to BIG TECH (he says, typing on his Apple MacBook).

I’ve been using DuckDuckGo in my browser for a while now, and don’t use any other Google products any more (I’ve deleted all the docs and sheets from, er, Google Docs, and Google Sheets already), so only Gmail remains.

How I’m doing it

As I’m in no big hurry to make the switch, I’m just working through the accounts manually, one by one. Yes, it’s a slightly laborious process but I feel it’s worth doing so that I can kill two birds with one digital rock.

One is to change my email address, the other is to tighten up my password security (another issue 19+ years in the making!).

Alongside changing email address, I also have a lot of older accounts (mostly using my Gmail account) that are, ahem, using the same password (oops) and so are flagged, rightly, as a security risk in the Apple Passwords app (about 240 of them, which is about half of the online accounts that use my Gmail email address).

So for each service I have three choices:

  1. Update the password/security and change the email to my own one
  2. Delete the account if I no longer need it
  3. Delete the entry in the Passwords app because the service and/or website no longer exists.

I’ll then do a pass through those listed against my Gmail account that aren’t flagged as a security risk (some 260 odd) and update the email address to my own.

After that, job done, I’ll no longer be using Gmail.

Security is never simple

One thing I am learning through this process is just how different an experience it is to update your email address depending on the service.

Some I expect to be a bit more heavy-handed (hello financial service apps) but others are catching me by surprise, and that’s before we get to the myriad ways of confirming my details, the fact that I am a human, and all the two step verification loops involved.

I am probably suffering a bit because, for the services I want to retain, I’m usually logging in, changing my email AND my password, so there’s a double loop of verification to step through but, overall, it’s been very hit or miss.

And it’s not like there is a common theme across the type of service, as I said I was expecting a lot of hoops when jumping through changes to my financial services yet one of the easiest was my Natwest account.

I logged in to the app on my phone (using FaceID), found the settings page, changed my email, and that was it. Granted FaceID is doing the heavy lifting here yet the same simplicity is lacking in other services.

Here’s an example from PensionBee.

I logged into the app (again using FaceID) but there is no email listed in the app, instead I had to go to the website, find the FAQ I needed which told me to email my nominated contact to request a change of my email address.

I sent the email and an hour or so later they set up a verification process with a 3rd party. That process that included having a photo of some valid ID, and an up-to-date selfie. Once submitted, I got a confirmation email saying that it had all been verified and my nominated contact from PensionBee would be in touch. They were, another hour or so later, to confirm that the ā€˜data request’ had been passed to another team to process which could take a few working days.

Natwest, 3 mins. PensionBee, 3 days and counting…

In the grand scheme of things I’m not fussed at how long this might take, and I appreciate the security steps required to change some crucial information on may account but I guess what was so glaring was the complete difference in approach, especially between two financial institutions.

Mostly though it’s been straightforward enough. Login, find my account settings or profile, edit my email address, click Save. Done.

Anyway, I am about 50 items into a list of 500 or so places where I want to change my email address, so I really should stop writing and get on with it!

Week 6 Notes

Reading time: 3 mins

Life

Reading

Considered

  • There’s no such thing as tech ā€œAt a moment when we have seen that so many of the biggest tech companies are led by people who don’t know how to act responsibly with all of the power that they’ve been given, it’s important that we complicate our views of their companies, and consider that they are much more than just part of the ā€œtech industryā€. They are functioning as communications, media, finance, education, infrastructure, transportation, commerce, defense, policing, and government much of the time. And very often, they’re doing it without our awareness or consent.ā€
  • The mountain that weighed the earth – just happens to be one I’ve cycled up! Once again, Scotland is the centre of the universe.
  • Life before social media – Couldn’t agree with this more, I’m finding myself less and less on social media and not just to counter the doomscrolling.
  • OpenClaw could be future of personal assistants – Federico does the work to save me trying it. AI is here and I have used it (ChatGPT mostly) and it’s definitely a disruptive technology, I just hope it does more harm than good.

Watched

  • Rewatching Schitt’s Creek – such a joyful show, a balm for our souls whilst the world goes mad.
  • Down Cemetery Road– a few episodes in and, as with all AppleTV productions the, er, production level is high. Couple that with a reasonable plot line and two excellent lead actors, add a strong ensemble and it’s an enjoyable watch. Based on a Mick Herron novel (the Slow Horses guy) and written by Morwenna Banks who continues to show up in credits where I least expect her. Fun if not completely compelling.

Listened

  • Butterfly by Daphni – catchy beats galore! Much more front foot than his usual Caribou style, this is great for lifting the spirits.
  • Desert so Green by Winged Wheel – hard to describe so I’ll leave it to Pitchfork ā€œListening can feel like stumbling through a landscape that is both brutal and stunning, comprising raga drone and haunted violin screeches as well as beautifully woozy stoner rock and idyllic birdsong, all colliding into unexpected forms.ā€

Health

  • Made it to the gym twice this week, which is plenty for now. Starting to track things using the Strong app, which is pretty slick. I’ve got my three routines setup and ready to go!
  • Current Weight 103.6kg – aka reason for above.
  • Avg. Sleep: 6hrs 39mins (with pinch of salt)

Tech

  • Mug warmer – a Christmas present, that I chose myself, and I was a little dubious but was getting fed up drinking half a mug of coffee, getting distracted with work, and then getting that awful mouthful of tepid liquid. This gadget works like a charm! Two heat levels and auto off if not in use.
  • Bye bye Gmail – made some headway in removing gmail, and have been doubling up on changing passwords (or deleting them) at the same time. Slow progress, but is definitely gonna be worth it as my Passwords app will be nice and clean too.
  • Ulysses – I was playing about trying to get a clean way to use Apple Notes for the drafts for this blog, and somewhere in my brain I remembered that Ulysses (which I am using for writing my novel) includes a ā€˜Publish to WordPress’. A quick test and, yup, solution sorted.
  • Apple Shortcuts. For the love of god Apple, rename this! Seriously, do a web search for ā€œApple shortcuts [anything]ā€ and you mostly get keyboard shortcuts results. Gah!

Dear Jen

Me and my sister Jennie
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A year has passed since you left us.

I have been dreaming of you lately, odd childhood moments all smushed together into an incoherent ramble that I awake from feeling confused and sad.

A year of grief rolling over my bones, picking at my skin. Jagged and sharp in shape and form.

I am trying not to be defined by my grief, but it’s hard. Everything I do feels tainted at times, but I know this will change in time. Just as my initial shock and anger faded, so too my grief will soften.

I hope that happens soon because this still hurts so much, feels so wrong not to have my little sister around. Yet I’m in no rush as my grief for you keeps you vivid in my mind, and I don’t want that to change any time soon.

I can withstand this pain, this gentle torture of memories, because I love you now as I loved you from the first moment you arrived and, rightly, stole all the attention.

I miss making you smile.

Week 5 Notes

Reading time: 3 mins

Thought I’d give the week notes posts a go. Let’s see how long I keep it up for. This one is gonna reach back a little more than a week as a sort of catchup… and yes I’m starting on Week 5, my blog, my rules!

Life

  • Catherine Oā€Hara RIP. As I’ll note later our current comfort watch (once Jack is in bed) is usually something nice (Friends, Modern Family etc) and we started watching Schitts Creek (again) a couple of weeks ago. What a talent she was.
  • Both my nieces birthdays were a couple of weekends ago. Somehow Lucy is 10 and Daisy is 5! We had a wee afternoon out with them today, visiting Gravity and bouncing around on trampolines and stuff for an hour. I may not walk for a week, but such great fun!

Read

  • I See You by Clare Mackintosh – Finished this, loved it. She’s writes such excellent twisty tales. I did half guess the final twist but most of the time she had me second guessing everything!
  • The Burgess Boys by Elizabeth Strout – started this and about halfway through. Second novel of hers I’ve read and, like Olive Kitteridge, it’s full of wonderfully complete characters and lives.

Considered

  • History of the walkman – a real nostalgia trip as my childhood was largely spent with cassettes and headphones.
  • Teaching when to trust – The current set of media and fake news is troubling for me, but terrifying when I think of the world my son is growing up in, critical thinking will likely be THE life skill we need to teach him.
  • Ageing out of fucks – As a man I’ve had the privilege to act like I’m out of fucks for quite a while now. This article explains why it’s very different for women. Top tip, don’t mess with them, they are quite literally out of fucks and will kill you with a look.

Watched

  • Schitt’s Creek – we watched episode 10 the night before Catherine Oā€Hara died, as I posted to Threads ā€œLiterally just a few seasons into a rewatch of Schitt’s Creek. Just last night we were chatting about how much fun she must’ve had playing Moira. What a shame. 71 is no age. RIP Catherine O’Haraā€.
  • Now you see me, Now you don’t – the latest of these. I think I watched the first one, and it was ok. But this was awful so I gave up, just a weird contrived ā€œexperienceā€ that, yeah was a bit dull.
  • One Punch Man – can’t recall why I started watching this (an Instagram reel?) but first two seasons on Netflix were fun, and smarter than they appear. Season 3 on a service I don’t have though. Oh well.

Listened

  • No Such Thing As A Fish – Always funny, interesting and at around an hour, perfect for my two hour drives to the office each month.
  • Wednesday – trying to pick up new music and this band has been on rotation this week. Their album, Bleeds, came out late last year. Think Americana rock with a hint of shoe gazing country…

Health

  • Went to the gym for the first time in a year. Determined to get into the habit first and foremost and worry less about the progress. 3 times a week is the goal.
  • Stretched. Flexibility is also a focus for me as I get older and spend most of my time sitting. Thanks to the Bend app for an easy way to keep me on track. Mostly just 5-10 mins at a time but I can feel the difference.
  • Started tracking my sleep by wearing my Apple Watch all night. Feels ā€˜good enough’ to confirm what I suspect when I wake. Jack sleeps through some nights but is still up occasionally looking to be tucked in (he can tuck himself in, it’s just the reassurance he’s looking for).

Tech

  • Added Comply memory foam tips to my AirPods Pro 3 – game changer! Much better fit and they aren’t as ā€˜slippy’ in my ear and, so far, they’ve not fallen out at all.
  • Bye bye gmail. A long term thought is to get out of gmail. I have my own domain, with email, so my only excuse is laziness. Likely to drive this via Passwords app which I’m also, v.slowly, going through and either deleting, or updating, the password. If that includes my gmail acxount, I’m switching that out too.
  • I’ve also been on back and forth about this blog, where it lives, how I use it. I’m sticking with WordPress, as much I like Bearblog, it’s just too simple in functionality, and while my needs are few, I don’t want any other friction. I will be tweaking things here for a while though, more on that later.
  • My digital curation continues and I’m slowly getting through sorting out (deleting) photos, blog posts, moving and curating journal entries, and as mentioned above, I’m now including gmail in that too.