My Shadow

Reading time: 2 mins You do not know me. I do not know all of me. What you read here is not me. It is a small part, a feather plucked from my plummage. Sometimes it is shiny and bright, the dazzling blue shimmering in the sun. Sometimes it is dull and brown, a soft down of comfort. Occasionally […]

Honesty and trust

Reading time: 3 mins One thing that has continued to take me by surprise, despite the overwhelming evidence that suggests it shouldn’t, is how many benefits there are to being open and honest in your relationships, building a trust that makes so many other aspects of the relationship so much easier. What that really means is being honest with […]

A box of valentine

Reading time: 2 mins Whilst it may be Chaucer that popularised the notion of romantic love being celebrated today, it seems that social expectation has taken hold and placed us all at the behest and behemothic budgets of a massive industry. Cards to buy, chocolates to order, flowers to be delivered, candlelit dinners to be enjoyed, discrete Ann Summers […]

No Excuses

Reading time: 2 mins It’s too easy for me to avoid and put off things I know I should do. I’m not sure why that is, why my willpower diminishes at odd points of the day and with little to no warning. Some days I’m buzzed up and feeling good and getting things done, which in turn helps me […]

Daily Personal Bandwidth

Reading time: 2 mins How much energy should I expend on what? How much is my time worth? With finite resources available these are questions I find myself far more aware ofย these days, both in my personal and professional lives. An example: Iโ€™ve recently been having issues with my internet connection at home. Sky are my internet provider and […]

On Dating and Poly

Reading time: 3 mins Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at One advantage of being non-monogamous is that you can go on dates even if you already have a partner or two, how great […]