Yoga

The room is warm and quiet, a soft glow from the candles in the corner. Scattered around the floor are long unfurled mats each with an occupant, some lie prone, some sit with straight backs, legs crossed. The atmosphere is one of calm as I pad my way, barefoot, to the far corner and unfurl my mat. I lie down, close my eyes and relax into this new experience. The instructor enters and in a low gentle voice starts to direct our movements. Hands on stomach, focussing on each breath in and out, slowly and deliberately she guides us through the next 90 minutes of movements and thoughts, principles and reasonings. My first time It was my first yoga class, …

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Serious (not serious)

Isn’t it funny the things that stick in your memory? I have a pretty crap memory at the best of times so when something pops back into my brain I take it as a sign that my brain thinks it’s important, even if I’m not sure why. Today the random memory was a conversation I had with my first boss. I had joined a small software company as a technical administrator, a wonderfully vague title that ended up with me becoming a technical writer. There were 12 software engineers of varying levels of experience and me. We worked in a cottage (this one) before moving to the converted boat building space next door (now a “Curves” outlet I see). We …

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A brush with prejudice

For those about to read, please know that I’m very VERY aware that I’m writing from a position of privilege and that I realise a lot of my shock and horror of this event is largely driven by the fact that I’ve never been confronted with any form of prejudice before. I know this is not the norm. The event in question happened several months ago and I’ve been sitting on this blog post ever since. I happened across it today, re-read it and in light of other recent (world) events have revised my thoughts. I have moved on past this but never captured it and I want to, for myself. To those who offered support on Twitter when it …

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Relationships with metamours

Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. #153342558 / gettyimages.com This month, the Poly Means Many crew are pondering metamours; I can still remember my thoughts when I first read that word… “what does that mean?”, I had a rough idea but wasn’t sure so let’s start with a definition. A metamour is the partner of one’s partner, with whom one does not share a direct sexual or loving relationship (1). That means, for me, I have one metamour, Kirsty’s other partner Mark. I’ll admit I wasn’t sure how this part of being poly would …

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Always home

I don’t remember my parents first house, we left just after my 3rd birthday and the photos jog no memories. My parents second house is where I grew up. It’s where I learned to ride a bike following on from my childhood friend Stuart who took just one big push down his parents driveaway to get going. It’s where I used to play in the back garden, building obstacle courses to run around with a football (although I mostly ended up killing the plants bordering the grass), practicing pitch and putt with old golf clubs, and on one occasion smashing an upstairs window with great precision with a … an old chair leg perhaps? All I recall is a shaped …

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An apology

It’s not you, it’s me. It’s not that I think you are boring, or that I don’t value what you are saying. Unless you are boring and talking AT me about something in which I’ve explicitly said I have no interest, of course. In that case, jog on pal! Ever experienced that? Isn’t it just THE BEST thing EVER when you tell someone you aren’t interested in, for example, the exact process of milk pasteurisation only for them to spend the next 20 minutes telling you exactly how it works in precise and excruciatingly minute detail. Don’t get me wrong, in the right time and place, I love conversations with interesting and engaging people. I’m always happy to learn something …

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The Book

I am writing a book. I enjoy writing fiction, some of you may have read the bits and bobs I’ve posted here in the past, but I’ve no real idea if it’s rubbish or not. I’ve read some of it and it seems ok to me, although every time I re-read them I can’t help but think of ways to tighten up the language and make things flow better. It’s one thing writing short blog posts though, quite another to write a book. What the hell do I know about writing a book? In an effort to answer that question I once bought a book called “How to write your first novel”. I should probably read it at some point. …

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Misconceptions

Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at www.polymeansmany.com. Poly Bingo – credit to BiteyTheSwitch. One of the reasons I got involved with the Poly Means Many project was because it had helped me and my partners, and my partners partner, as we got started in our poly relationships. On my part I had a reasonable idea of how things would work but I’ll own up and admit that I had some misconceptions of my own. When this topic came up for discussion I started to revisit those to see just how much I’d learned. It’ll be no …

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What I miss

Wandering around the city centre, earphones in, observing life with a soundtrack. Apple sandwiches on soft white bread (with just a sprinkle of sugar). Running away from a soaking wet golden retriever before she shakes herself dry. Long train journeys. Hiking up hills, across moors, a fresh breeze in my face, a warm flask of hot chocolate in my rucksack. My Dad bring home ice cream from Gallone’s (Italian made, milk ice cream with raspberry sauce). Cold early mornings on the river, water rushing round my legs, the quiet zip of the rod and line. The building excitement of an eagerly anticipated movie. Freewheeling down a long long road, feet off the pedals, close to flying. A crescent of honeydew …

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Bye Bye Foursquare

I’ve had an on/off relationship with Foursquare for a few years now. I started using it in March 2010, and the whilst the initial fun of using a ‘location based app’ (this was a few years ago when such things were new) quickly faded, it was replaced by a level of usefulness through discovery, particularly as I moved into the fair city of Glasgow. So I would dutifully log in to the places I visited and was rewarded with badges and mayorships and other such ‘gamification’ tricks. I did use it quite often to see what else was close by as I wandered around, and it proved useful when visiting other cities; not so much when travelling abroad though, thanks …

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