Assumptions

Written in response to the monthly theme on Poly Means Many: Assumptions I am not ‘one of the lads’, I can play the role when needed but recently I’ve been less inclined to do so. It’s taken me a while to figure out why but I think it’s because I’m getting fed up with the assumptions made about me and my life choices. I have two girlfriends. I talk of going on dates. Most of my peers (professionally at least) are married with children. I’m the same age as them but living the, perceived, life of a 20-something, out most weekends, partying and indulging in what they presume to be “debauchery” (they probably think I’m a swinger). As I’ve started …

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Lots of new things

There are many different types of relationship, many different ways those relationships function, and many different forms the dynamic takes between two or more people. At present, for these things are prone to change, I’m lucky enough to be in a relationship with a woman who shares my views on these things. We’ve both been in monogamous relationships in the past (which wasn’t a bad thing), but looking to the future we are currently in an open relationship, free to see other people, and believe that it is possible to have: more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved… [polyamory] I’m lucky enough to know some people already in such a relationship and as I …

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Reading

42 Rules to Lead by from the Man Who Defined Google’s Product Strategy From the corners of the Curve.: "It never stops being painful" Untitled Move fast, break things: The sad story of Platform, Facebook’s gigantic mis

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Slowly Happy

It feels a bit like a long slow ascent, floating higher and higher above the ground. Everything seems to be changing perspective, as I drift over ground previously covered and onwards to new pastures. The benefits of this extra distance are obvious. I can see the connections better, the well trodden pathways and places I’ve spent some time are clearly defined, but as I float away the detail matters less and less and, instead, I’m left with the impression of them. It’s a strange feeling to slowly realise that you are changing. The first half of the year is over and looking back, whilst I didn’t realise it at the time, I’ve learnt a lot about myself, about who and …

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Stop Planning

I’ve recently managed to do something I’ve been trying to do for a while. In fact, I’ve managed it twice. The interesting realisation for me is that I hadn’t planned to do it the way it happened, it just … happened. This event had it’s genesis in the realisation that it’s ok to fail. That it’s ok to stop doing something in favour of something else. That I don’t need to do everything. I’d been trying to do since January and started out well enough, best intentions leading me forward and, for a while, it was going ok but over the past few weeks it started to falter. So I did something I don’t recall ever doing before and, once …

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