Another year approaches

Can’t quite believe that 2013 is almost over. Looking back it’s been a fairly eventful year, but then, it’s every one? At work I changed roles to do a job I hadn’t done before. It’s been stressful, exciting, and bloody hard work but I’m still glad I took the opportunity. There was some more travel to Sunnyvale but much less than I anticipated. I also managed to get my running back on track enough to do a 5K, alas things fell away again so I’m looking for a new goal to get me back on track. Holiday wise I didn’t get away anywhere other than to Glastonbury. It was fantastic, a second year for Kirsty and I, and we were much …

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What Poly Looks Like

I’ve mentioned this before, but despite how many people think a set of polyamorous relationships work, the reality is that it takes a lot of work, communication and calendaring to get to the good bits of having multiple, loving partners to spend time with. We’ve just about got the next two weeks sorted it and it struck me that this is a perfect sign of trying to balance the desires and plans of four people around the festive period, particularly given that we all also have added pressures/desires to be with families. This is what next week looks like (and it doesn’t include everything!). Thank the baby jebus for shared Google Calendars!

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Friends and Family

I’m very lucky. I have a small but loyal group of friends and a small but loving family. I’m guilty at times of taking these easily, if not for granted, nor making the time to see them when I should. This time of year highlights these facts of course, and I take some solace that I’ve seen a little more of my friends this year than I’ve managed previously. As for my family, well I sometimes fear that I’m becoming something of the ‘absent son’. My parents are very independent but each time I visit, about once a month these days, I notice more and more how things are changing. And don’t ask me the last time I saw my …

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Winding down

The past couple of weeks have been somewhat hectic. It’s part and parcel of my job and these times aren’t the norm but they do happen and no matter how far in advance I know of them they always hit me pretty hard. My stress levels and working hours rise, sleep decreases and I end up in a mostly grumpy/stressed mood. I try to keep a lid on all that when I’m dealing with my loved ones of course, which takes some effort which adds to the tiredness and… so on and so forth. It’s a short brutal cycle that veers from grumpiness to out and out anger, quickly followed by a ‘how do I sort this’ bluntness which can …

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I’m dreaming of…

Poly Means Many: There are many aspects of polyamory. Each month, the PMM bloggers will write about their views on one of them. Links to all posts can be found at polymeansmany.com. A Poly Christmas (ho ho ho!) The festive season is upon us once more! Yuletide approaches, mince pies are being warmed, trees decorated and everywhere across the land talk turns to Christmas Day and the bounties that await on the dinner table. Families rejoice and gleefully wear lurid jumpers, novelty socks and all quietly enjoy the Queen’s speech. Or so the TV adverts would have you believe. Ohhh yes, and we all drink Coke. Putting my cynicism aside, it is true that for many, whether you celebrate it or …

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