My nonmonogamy

Written in response to the monthly theme on Poly Means Many: Types of Nonmonogamy I’m not big on definitions and labels, and as I’m still new to the concept of non-monogamy itself (he said, neatly avoiding having to label my own relationship type for the moment) all of the terminology around this lifestyle is something that I’m still getting my head around. However, whilst my preference is to try and avoid applying labels I understand that they help communicate the construct, status, or hierarchy of a relationship to other people. Mind you that presumes that anyone that I’m discussing my relationships with knows what each specific label means and, for the most part, that isn’t the case. So I find myself …

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A day at the Fringe

Last Saturday we headed to Edinburgh for some Fringe frolics, with only a vague plan but no real expectations of what we might see, so as we walked towards the Gilded Balloon we accepted a few flyers and made some quick decisions! First up was a musical comedian from Boston, Katie Goodman. She got things off to a great start with some lovely little songs and raps. Funny, crude and provocative, she certainly doesn’t mince her words; She thinks that some men are probably Gay, there are some things she doesn’t remember, she didn’t fuck it up and is a big advocate of Unfuck It Up. Next up, and the highlight of the day for me, the Wellington International Ukelele …

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Assumptions

Written in response to the monthly theme on Poly Means Many: Assumptions I am not ‘one of the lads’, I can play the role when needed but recently I’ve been less inclined to do so. It’s taken me a while to figure out why but I think it’s because I’m getting fed up with the assumptions made about me and my life choices. I have two girlfriends. I talk of going on dates. Most of my peers (professionally at least) are married with children. I’m the same age as them but living the, perceived, life of a 20-something, out most weekends, partying and indulging in what they presume to be “debauchery” (they probably think I’m a swinger). As I’ve started …

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Lots of new things

There are many different types of relationship, many different ways those relationships function, and many different forms the dynamic takes between two or more people. At present, for these things are prone to change, I’m lucky enough to be in a relationship with a woman who shares my views on these things. We’ve both been in monogamous relationships in the past (which wasn’t a bad thing), but looking to the future we are currently in an open relationship, free to see other people, and believe that it is possible to have: more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved… [polyamory] I’m lucky enough to know some people already in such a relationship and as I …

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42 Rules to Lead by from the Man Who Defined Google’s Product Strategy From the corners of the Curve.: "It never stops being painful" Untitled Move fast, break things: The sad story of Platform, Facebook’s gigantic mis

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